BETRAYAL IN FRIENDSHIP! 16 MOST EFFECTIVE WAYS TO FEEL BETTER

Betrayal in friendship is as painful as betrayal in a love relationship and it can lead to heartbreaks and can leave you with a sad broken heart which can be damaging for your personality. A sad broken heart needs to be healed. It demands proper care and attention.

There is a way where you can get over betrayal and rejection and rise above the emotional pain of dejection. Read 16 most effective ways to get over betrayal in friendship or in any relationship which will help you if you are facing any heartbreaks.

Things don’t happen the way you think all the time. There will be a time when you will face betrayal and backstabbing.

You might even see someone whom you trust, take advantage of your trust, and act like a traitor. That time is really difficult and you will feel disheartened and depressed. That will affect your peace of mind and you feel like giving up.

But it’s really damaging for your own self. You can’t control the actions of people around you. You can control your reactions. 

Yes, it hurts,
Yes, you feel like giving up, 
Yes, you will blame yourself for trusting someone.

But what will happen after that? If you are wasting your time lamenting and regretting, whining, and crying then you are harming yourself. 

Your time is precious and if you spend it in a way that when looking back, you see yourself as a warrior and not a whiner, you will emerge as a strong person.

Be someone who loves himself so much that he can’t let the outside world disturb his inside world.

1-ACCEPT YOUR EMOTIONAL CONDITION WHEN YOUR TRUST IS BROKEN

When your friend breaks your trust you feel betrayed and you are likely to become emotionally vulnerable. Accept that. It’s the first step towards healing.

Running away from your feeling is never an escape. Things need closure. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself, that though you have been betrayed, you are not broken. You will get over it soon.

One of my friends started her boutique business. After a few days, she came to know her very dear friend and started the same business partnering with someone else without even telling her and stealing her ideas.

She was heartbroken. She felt like she was backstabbed. That whole night she couldn’t sleep. She couldn’t expect this from her own friend.

But she faced herself. She acknowledged her emotional condition. She accepted the fact that she was betrayed and that needed time to heal.

She gave herself that much time. And today, things are doing good for her and she is working more hard towards her goal.

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2-PRACTICE FORGIVENESS

The first time betrayal I received was from one of my very good friends during my school days. She started coaching without even telling me and we were planning to do that together. But the worst part of that was, that she kept on lying about the same.

I came to know from someone else and asked her about that, but she lied to my face. I didn’t tell her that I knew, but I was really hurt for a long time.

I didn’t talk to her properly but it didn’t help me either. Though that incident sounds small at this stage of life, for kids this kind of incident matters.

The day I accepted that though she betrayed me I am still going to forgive her, helped me. Forgiving is never easy. But it’s not for them, it’s for your own relief.

3-LEARN TO LET THINGS GO

You can not have control over situations, and if something is hurting you, again and again, you have to let that thing go for your own peace.

But is it easy? Sometimes you end up thinking about that situation, again and again, you re-create that entire situation in your mind, which is really damaging for yourself and for your time. The situation that has gone will never come back.

Thinking about that, again and again, will only give you pain. Let it go. Absorb the entire feeling and accept the fact that you are being wronged but still, you are not going to think about it.

Tell yourself, that you are over it and now it doesn’t bother you anymore. Learning to let things go can be the best way to get over betrayal in friendship or any other relationship and it can be difficult for a sad broken heart in the beginning but it will avoid further heartbreaks and so it’s needed.

4-GIVE TIME A LITTLE MORE TIME TO HEAL YOUR PAIN

Time heals everything. All you have to do is to give time a little more time to do its work. Betrayals are agonizing. They take away the person’s capability to trust again.

But you cannot let a few incidents in your life create a trust issue for you. It’s bad for the long run.

Keep this thing in mind, though the cloud is too dark today, it will pass away one day. But it will take time. So all you have to do is to be patient and have hope in life.

Don’t worry it’s all going to be ok

5-BE CONFIDENT AND HAVE FAITH IN YOURSELF

You are self-sufficient. You can take care of yourself at any time. Nobody can pamper you, or make you happy unless you want that for yourself.

So, have faith in yourself. You will conquer this betrayal too. Yes, things are difficult and you feel like there is nothing left, and you want to give up on yourself.

But remember one thing, you can have control over your feelings. If you will feel like a failure, you will fail and if you feel like you will make it, you surely will make it. It’s all in mind.

Just give yourself a little time and have some faith that you can get over anything because you are self-sufficient.

6-DISCUSS WITH SOMEONE

Sometimes discussing with someone really helps. Find someone in your life, whom you can trust. Pour your heart out. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to yell, yell. Do whatever consoles your heart.

And if you don’t have anyone trustworthy person in your life, or you are not in a condition to trust anyone now, make a diary your friend. You can also write a blog. It really helps.

Write down every single thing you feel. It will make your heart lighter. Words are powerful, so also mention that you are strong enough to go through any betrayal. Yes, he broke your trust, but you are impregnable, you will get over it soon.

7-TRY TO BE CALM AND THINK STRAIGHT

It’s difficult to stay calm when you feel betrayed. Your trust has been broken and it will be very tough for you to regain that trust again.

But staying calm will help you to think clearly. Don’t be a whiner. It will be of no help. Yes, pouring your heart out, and expressing your feeling in words will help you, but if you keep on mulling over it all the time, it will eventually harm you and will create a toxic environment.

Sometimes we have to come out of the circle and consider ourselves as a third person to get a clear picture. It will help you to understand things clearly and also will give you some direction to soothe your heart.

8-BE SELECTIVE WITH YOUR WORDS

I always say, ‘words are powerful. Though you are feeling sad but don’t speak something like that. Your future has been destroyed…you cannot trust anyone… why does it happen to me all the time… etc.

Be constructive with your words. Be kind to yourself with your words. Your words strengthen your feelings. If you will say, there is nothing remaining for you, you won’t find anything.

Nature attracts what you say, so speak wisely.

9-DO NOT GO HARSH ON YOURSELF

If you are being betrayed, it’s not your mistake so go easy on yourself.

This world is full of different kinds of people. People like to keep their interest first and then think about other things. There were times when betrayal was rare but today you will see it everywhere.

Read the newspaper and you will realize how brutal this world is becoming. You can just have control over your own emotions and your own actions but can’t control your surroundings.

Accept it, it will make you feel better.

10-LEARN TO IGNORE THINGS AND MOVE ON

Move one. Tell yourself that you have to move on. You might have to face the same person again in your life, and it will be very difficult for you if you won’t detach yourself from that feeling.

You will feel that pain again, you will be hurt again unless you decide to move on.

Don’t think about that person, don’t think about his betrayal. Don’t think about how could he do that do you…..

He did it because he is that kind of a person, there is nothing bad in you. Accept it and move on. Be so strong, that even if you are working in the same room you don’t feel anything. It seems difficult to think right now, but you are capable enough to gain that strength.

11-KEEP YOURSELF OCCUPIED AND BUSY

No matter what the situation is, or how difficult things are, keeping yourself busy and occupied always helps. If you don’t have time to lament or regret, you will be doing good.

Learn some new skills, and take out time to do things that you were thinking to do for a long time but couldn’t find the right time. It can be making a painting, writing a book, learning to do makeup… It can be anything.

The only condition is, that you should be happy doing that.

12-MEDITATE

Meditation helps to calm your mind. It helps to focus and relax. Practice meditation every day. It will control your mind to wander and will help you to stay positive.

You can choose anytime you want, but do it every day. There is some guided meditation available on the internet. You can listen to them and meditate. It will help you a lot if you are new to meditation.

13-LOOK FOR CLOSURE

You can not keep your wounds open and expect them to heal sooner. If you have been betrayed, look for closure. Either talk to that person directly and or text him or mail him.

It’s not for him, it’s for you. Express yourself. There is a possibility that he will not listen, he won’t read, but who cares. You are letting your entire feeling out not for him, but for yourself.

I really like the concept of burning the photograph and swearing at the person who hurt you in the movie ‘Jab We Met ‘. It sounds funny, I think it works too. Write down in the comment section below if you have tried something silly like this to make yourself feel better.

14-WORK ON PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Pain gives the opportunity to grow. If you are striving for becoming a better version of yourself than today, if you are working on self-improvement, it really helps in getting over the betrayal.

If you will see yourself growing, if you will see yourself developing, it will make you happy. Everybody loves growth. Seeing yourself growing will motivate you to be persistent in that.

And there will be a time when you might even realize that whatever has happened, it happened for the good. With extreme emotion, you can achieve anything. Why not channel your pain into something constructive that will make you something?

15-EXERCISE

Betrayal sometimes leads to depression. If someone whom you have trusted a lot, betrayed you, you might even confine yourself to a room. You will feel dejected all the time which will make you miserable and lethargic.

By practicing exercise regularly you will feel, revived and energetic which will help you to get over betrayal soon.

16- THIS IS NOT THE END OF YOUR WORLD

You will be loved again, you will be trusted again and you will be joyful again. This time will also pass. Every night is followed by daylight. Give yourself that opportunity to be loved and cared for again.

You have been betrayed and this is not your mistake, it’s the fault of the person who has betrayed you. Give yourself another opportunity to develop faith and trust again.

CONCLUSION

She was naive when she thought, this world is the same as her eyes were seeing it.

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Life is big, one incident, one betrayal doesn’t have the right to take away your right to live your life joyfully.

Yes, betrayals in friendship or in any relationship lead to heartbreaks and nothing is worse than living a life with a sad broken heart. It drains you emotionally and sometimes physically. And yes, it takes an enormous amount of time and energy to recover.

But it’s totally your choice whether you want to get over that or not. You just cannot lie in bed all day and think that everything will become fine.

You yourself have to find the solution. Only you can help yourself. Stand for yourself and make your life better than before, because you deserve it.

You are stronger than any heartbreak
You are stronger than you think you can take.
You just have to remind youself,
Nothing can crush you, if you won't allow it.
You deserve a wondeful life,
so stand for yourself and strive for it.

Naseema Khatoon

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