Writing on how to deal with hate comments or how to deal with haters or negative comments never occurred to me before today. But today something strange happened that gave me another topic to write about with which I can connect. So I am here with another blog post.
In our office, we have vacancies for two interns and we urgently need them. So I posted in an architectural community regarding the same. But while doing the same I made two mistakes, first I forgot to turn off the comment section, and secondly in place of the stipend I wrote salary. I know it’s a grave mistake and I have to be ready to pay the price. 😀
After 4-5 hours I logged in again to see if there were any interactions and seriously I was so shocked to see the comment section. Firstly my post got a lot of engagements that I have never expected and secondly, the engagement was mostly negative which was really heartbreaking for me.
Honestly speaking I was flinching at that time when I saw those hate comments. It took me some time to settle down and to calm myself. Today, I have witnessed the slightest touch of how hate comments on social media can make you feel.
And because I have entered into the social media world as I make YouTube videos and write blogs, I have to learn to deal with the negative comments or haters. So I am writing a post just to make myself feel better and also to discuss few points on how to deal with hate comments. Read the blog to find out more.
Table of Contents
1-You cannot please everyone
Believe it or not, deep down we have a strong urge to be liked by other people. So when you see people hating you for something you are going to feel disheartened. And it’s OK to be disheartened.
Accept the fact that you can’t please everyone. So just don’t try to give an explanation all the time about what you meant and what you didn’t. People who will really care about you will never disregard you and people who do this just don’t care about you and your emotions.
So trying to please someone who is already filled with negativity and hatred is like banging your head on the rock which will eventually hurt you only.
2-People are jealous
On your journey of becoming something in your life, you are going to face different kinds of people. Some people will appreciate your hard work and will uplift your morale and some people will get jealous seeing your growth and will use their kind words to drag you down.
Remember one thing, this is your journey and seriously if you are striving to become something in your life you will become that person if you will ignore these kind of people.
These people have nothing in their life that they can appreciate and always look for negative things in others’ life which might please them and give them that momentarily happiness. They are procrastinators and unhappy people and they just don’t deserve your attention. So ignore them and move forward.
3-They don’t like seeing others grow
You should invest time in growing rather than keeping others from growing. And you just cannot become something overnight. It is a complete process. People who write negative comments or hate comments on social media are haters who never think of doing anything in their life, so the best way on how to deal with hate comments or how to deal with haters is to put yourself in the process of growth.
They are whiners who like to complain about things that they don’t have but will never try to take any action to bring any kind of improvement in their lives. So pity them for the things that they are missing rather than feeling sad for yourself from their hate comments.
4-Be focused and goal oriented
Have a vision for your life. Have some goals and dreams that you want to achieve. And let your desires be so deep-rooted in yourself that you just can’t see anything but them.
This will help you to ignore all the hate comments because they don’t matter to you at all. A focused person will never want to waste time feeling bad because of the hate comments from the people who really don’t matter. He will accept all constructive criticism and will try to improve but will never try to stop doing the things which he really desires because of the haters or negative comments.
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5-You don’t owe an explaination to Anyone
I remember a few days back the same thing happened with someone in that very community. He was being lashed for giving his opinion about something with words like ‘shame on you and all.
And that person kept on trying to give an explanation about what he actually meant and kept on wasting his precious time and energy clarifying to those people who were not at all ready to listen with a clear/ open mind.
Let the people think whatever they want and you don’t owe any explanation to them. I tell you one thing, only a frustrated and unhappy person will find out time to write negative and hate comments and now you decide for yourself whether you want to invest your time giving an explanation to them or you divert your time and energy towards something constructive and positive.
6-The choice is yours
When life gives you lemons make lemonade out of it. When I saw those hate comments I really didn’t know how to react in the beginning. But then I decided to write a blog on it and share my experience. By doing this I channelized my sad emotions into something positive and constructive.
You just cannot have control over the things that happen in your life but you have control over your reactions. I could have cried over that situation and said mean words for those people and also have wasted my time answering those mean comments but I chose to write a blog on how to deal with hate comments. A wise and sensible decision of mine.. ;). I am thinking to make a video on it let’s see if I find out time to make that one too.
7-Talk to uplifting people
Talking to someone who raises your spirit and uplifts your morale will help you to overcome the sad emotions that you are dealing with from hate comments. I discussed the same with my dear husband and my closest friend and they made me feel better. They are my people and I am grateful for having them in my life. They know you and love you for what you are and what you stand for.
8- Be positive with your words
If there is a need to respond to negative comments, calm down before writing anything. Use positive words and stand for yourself. Just don’t put yourself into any kind of argument for sake of proving yourself right. Agree to disagree will help you better. Be selective with your words even if you don’t want to.
Conclusion
In the end, I just want to say, you cannot have control over the words of other people, so just don’t care about them. Don’t consume your mind with all the negative words that people have said about you. I know it’s difficult but you have to do it for yourself. Those haters are not going to help you come out of that difficult situation.
If you are on social media, then learning how to deal with hate comments, or how to deal with haters from their negative comments is a skill that you need to learn to protect yourself from haters and their hate comments on social media.
So help yourself. Calm yourself and be a little more productive to make yourself feel better. Never judge yourself on the basis of hate comments of other people because they really don’t care about your life circumstances and how you are dealing with them. They are just here to judge you. So why give them value.
Admit if you have done any mistake but never settle for something against your belief. Never hold back because of those negative comments and haters.
Let the haters hate you because they remind you that you are becoming something. Take your time to feel good and then again take a step forward. Your life deserves more than reacting to those hate comments. You are important and your time is important.
That is all for today’s blog post. I hope you like the post. Write down in the comment section if you want to add some more points and your point of view on the same topic.
Thank you for reading.
Bye-bye and take care.
Stay safe… 🙂
